9 TIPS TO BE MORE CHARISMATIC

9 TIPS TO BE MORE CHARISMATIC

Resource: Succes.com


Charisma is when your mere presence defines you positively to everybody. It is the ability to hold a conversation with anyone, about anything, and always come out well-liked. Charismatic people make friends easily because everyone wants to be their friend and are confident in leadership positions. They exude warmth and authority and have presence, confidence and suaveness in spades.

Follow these 9 tips to blossom your social interactions

PRESENCE

This is your ability to be absolutely engaged and focused with the people you are surrounded by.

1. Learn a simple memory technique to remember names.

When you learn someone’s name, link it to some memorable item or activity. Did you meet a Jack? Imagine him climbing a beanstalk. People love hearing their own name, so use it in conversation.

2. Practice regular meditation to gain control of your mind.

Meditation helps you overcome the mind’s tendency to wander. With daily practice, it won’t be as hard to focus on the interaction at hand.

3. Put away your smartphone.

Simple to do, but not always easy. Texting, calling or even having your phone on the table is the best way to let someone know you don’t care about what they’re saying. Keep it in your pants.

POWER

This is your ability, real or perceived, to affect the world, exuding authority over others.

4. Broadcast high social status.

Rail against surface appearances all you like; they matter when it comes to charisma. Give a burger-flipping teenager a suit, a nice watch and a haircut, and you might mistake him for a tech titan. Upgrade your image and you’ll seem more powerful.

5. Take up more space.

Powerful people adopt the swagger of that 900-pound gorilla. They enter a room and people notice. Stand up and place your hands on the table during a meeting. Lean back in your chair with your arm draped over the seat next to you. Own the room.

6. Develop a power move.

The best way to exude power is to feel powerful. Before going onstage, Tony Robbins uses his “power move.” He spins around, pumps his fists and exhales with force. By changing your physiology, you change your emotional state.

WARMTH

This is your ability to be perceived as being benevolent and caring. When you radiate warmth and empathize, your audience will feel like you care about them.

7. Use the correct body language.

Balance power poses with warm gestures, such as laughing and tilting your head. Relax the muscles around your eyes. Take a deep breath and relax. Smile. Mirror your conversation partner’s mannerisms, tone of voice and style. Use words they use.

8. Show vulnerability.

We trust people who have nothing to hide. Don’t be afraid to tell a story about a personal failure or embarrassment. Share your challenges, hopes and fears. Admitting weakness will balance your expressions of power and paradoxically help others see you as a leader.

9. Develop a genuine satisfaction with your life.

Practicing gratitude will help you give off a warmth that makes you more charismatic. Our body language expresses our mental state. If you’re content at heart, you’ll convey natural warmth, and that’s something people will want to be around.


Summary

If you think that you were born without charm? Well you are not alone; dues can be paid by putting yourself in social situations where you can practice the above nine new superpowers.

A note of caution: If even one of these three ingredients (presence, power and warmth) is absent from a conversation, this can backfire. Show power without warmth and you’ll come off as a cold tyrant; show power without presence and you'll come off as aloof; show warmth without power and you'll come off as weak wallflower.

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